Regardless of the motive

On the Continent, persons inscribe on their cards “can personnel to show that they themselves have come, and not sent their cards. Many of the English, regardless of the motive, notwithstanding its being so evident, had the same words written on theirs, and the persons to whom these cards were sent not unfrequently had cards with “end personnel” thrust into the hands of their porter by a loquats de place, when they were in the vestibule, or entering their carriages, which excited much laughter, the servants also joining in the mirth.

Wedding takes place in a family

When a wedding takes place in a family, the cards of the newly married pair are sent round to all their acquaintances to apprize them of the event. The cards are sent out by the bridegroom to his acquaintances, and by the parents of the bride to theirs. In some instances, the cards have been united by silken or silver cords; but this mode has not been adopted by people of fashion.

To those who leave cards at the residence of the bride and bridegroom during their absence in the “honeymoon,” cards are sent to inform them of their return.

When cards are left for married people who reside with their parents or relatives, their names should be written on the cards left for them, to preclude mistakes.

When person’s without parents are married, they should send their cards to their acquaintances.

Foreign ladies always inscribe their maiden names, as well as their married ones, on their cards — as, “ La Comtesse this explains to what family they belong, and prevents mistakes where there are others of the same name. An English lady, observing this mode, and wishing to adopt it, left her cards with the following inscription, Mrs. Pipkins Tibbetts,” to the no small amusement of the quizzer with whom they were left.

In giving dinners, endeavor to engage persons only who are known to each other, or who mutually desire to become acquainted. Exceptions may be made in favor of persons of acknowledged merit, or of high distinction.

In society, verbal invitations are often given to balls or concerts, by persons with whom you are only slightly acquainted, and have not previously visited: in such a case, it is proper to leave a card beforehand on the lady at whose house the soiree is to take place, that she may be made acquainted with your name and intention — so that you may be expected; because you may have received an invitation from her husband, of which she was ignorant, and he may not be there to present you. Should it so occur, a card previously left will prevent either party looking foolish, or the stranger appearing “de trop.”

Holidays are coming, winter holidays. I can tell you about lovely places to visit in Bulgaria. If you are a ski fan then Bulgarian resorts are for you – Borovets, Bansko, Pamporovo. You will like it there.