Manners of Us

Hello all today I like to publish an old book which is about the manners of human. What we should do and what we shouldn’t. İt is older than a century so it is a kind of fun.

Etiquette is the barrier which society draws around itself as a protection against offences the “law ” cannot touch ; it is a shield against the intrusion of the impertinent, the improper, and the vulgar, — a guard against those obtuse persons who, having neither talent nor delicacy, would be continually thrusting themselves into the society of men to whom their presence might (from the difference of feeling and habit) ‘ be offensive, and even insupportable.

 Many unthinking persons consider the observance of etiquette to be nonsensical and unfriendly, as consisting of unmeaning forms, practiced only by the silly and the idle—an opinion which arises from their not having reflected on the reasons that have led to the establishment ‘of certain rules indispensable to the well-being of society, and without which, indeed, it would inevitably fall to pieces, and be destroyed.

Misconstruction

Much misconstruction and unpleasant feeling arises, especially in country towns, from not knowing what is “expected” or’ necessary to be done, on certain occasions, resulting” sometimes from the prevalence of local customs, with which the world in general are not supposed to be acquainted.

 Besides, in a mercantile country like England, people are continually rising m the world. Shopkeepers become merchants, and mechanics manufacturers; with the possession of wealth they acquire a taste lord the luxuries of life, expensive furniture, gorgeous plate, and also numberless superfluities, with the use of which they are only imperfectly acquainted. But although their capacities for enjoyment increase, it rarely happens that the polish of their manners keeps pace with the rapidity of their advancement; hence such persons are often painfully reminded that wealth alone is insufficient to protect them from the mortifications which a limited acquaintance with society entails upon the ambitious. Pride often deters people from seeking the advice of the experienced, when the opportunity of receiving it is presented. It is to be hoped that the following remarks will furnish a guide through the intricacies of con. National usage, without risk to the sensitive, or the humiliation of publicly proclaiming the deficiencies of an imperfect education.

In all cases, the observances of the Metropolis (as the seat of refinement) should be received as the standard of good-breeding.

Never introduce

Never “introduce” people to each other without a previous understanding that it will be agreeable to both.

There are many reasons why people ought never to be introduced to the acquaintance of each other, without the consent of each party previously obtained. A man may suit the taste, and be agreeable enough to one, without being equally so to the rest of his friends; nay, as it often happens, he may be decidedly unpleasing: a stupid person may be delighted with the society of a man of learning or talent, to whom, in return, such an acquaintance may prove an annoyance and a clog, as one incapable of offering an interchange of thought, or an idea worth listening to.

It is also so interesting to visit Bulgaria and discover the Bulgarian coast. It will take you a differet world. Come and be our guest in my country Bulgaria.